Family Chores Help Make Kids Successful

Children are great garden helpers.

Families want
 children spending time on activities that lea to success. Doing family chores has been proven a predictor of success according to developmental psychology studies and it is cheap. Family To- Do Lists are trainers for responsibility, wise use time, and accountability. Decades of many studies preschool into the 20’s show that To-Do children are Can-Do adults—academically, emotionally, and professionally (Weissbourd, Rende, Rossman, and Madeline Levine). In studies of 10,000 high school children, personal happiness is not from high achievement but strong family relationships.
Begin Early
  Young adults who begin chores at age 3 are more likely to have good relationships and a sense of family. How is this done?
  When children are small. Think small. A three year old can help put their dirty clothes in the correct place, find spoons and place them on the table, and help pick up toys. Families are training valuable and appreciated helpers. Their rewards are smiles, hugs, and praising words.
Chores with a Smile
    One key is an adult helping with the chore.  When children are young or doing a new job, adults can work along side, praise, and not expect perfection. Even young children can help dust with an old sock over their hand or dust mop under beds to find dust bunnies.
  Keep it simple and age appropriate.  Young children can pick up little sticks and count their pile. 
  Be careful with the language used.  Thank children for being a “helper” rather than helping.  It is important that children view themselves as one who pitches in, who helps the family, neighbors, and the community. Let’s do “our family chores”, not  “your chores”.
  Avoid tying chores to punishment. Keep talk about To-Do Lists positive or at least neutral. If adults complain about sorting, washing clothes, folding, or doing the dishes so will children.
  Carry on conversations.  One family puts cleaned clothing on a bed, and all gather around to fold and hang up their clothes. They discuss good things, successes, and things that could be better from the week. 
  Take turns with jobs. Make a schedule. Everyone has a day to fill the dishwasher.  Little ones pair up with older ones. Everyone takes their age from the table, adults last.   Schedule chore times into the calendar right next to piano lessons and sports practice. Maintain consistency.
  Keep the allowance and chores separate. Often sit down together at the kitchen table, discuss, and make a master list together to make the family run smoothly.
Start small and earn new levels of responsibility. Game it. They understand the concept.
  To build pro-family behavior like empathy, focus on chores that take care of the family rather than personal hygiene. That’s a different list.
Photo: Fran Darling, fdarling fotos; Sketch: Mark Nowicki

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